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I have no problem whatsoever with people being homosexual, I have no problem with homosexuals marrying each other.
But I DO have a problem with homosexuals adopting children. Im not suggesting you would be a bad parent, I just think it would be a big disadvantage for a child not to have a father AND a mother, and the authorities wouldnt let a single mother or father adopt a child.
I think a child needs socialization with both a male and a female role model. But I have no problems with gay adoptions. As long as the child has a member of the opposite sex of the adopted parent that they can spend time with, I see no problems.
If you wish to pursue adoption, oh_what', all the best of luck.
A gay couple is not a single parent so I don't get the comparison.
Single parents can't adopt because there is only one of them NOT because they are lacking a role model of any particular gender.
Since when has having two loving parents ever been a disadvantage?
Research does not support the idea that children of same sex parents are at any disadvantage.
"As long as the child has a member of the opposite sex of the adopted parent that they can spend time with, I see no problems."
I just want to ask if that thought would have occurred to you if we were talking about a single parent.
^ Yes. The child of a single mother needs a male role model of some type. As would the child of a single father needing a female role model. It has nothing to do with society's desires of a 'perfect mother and father family base', it's just that I would not want a child to miss out on the opportunity of having said role models.
Forgot to add, I think it would greatly benefit the child's future of dealing with people of the opposite sex.
A choice between having an orphan raised by loving parents (of any sexual orientation) versus being raised by an Institution, along with the inevitable lack of attention and nurturing ...
Hmmm ... what a decision. 
Voted : Comment below
You should be allowed to go through the same process as anyone toward adopting children. Two guys nearby (great friends and well-respected) adopted twins, now eight years old. The kids are good students, respectful and well-liked. This is a loving home and a wonderful situation for raising children.
There are too too many unwanted children in Mom/Dad, Single Mom, and neglected situations!!
Good luck to you. I wish you well!
I's a difficult one, i'll agree with lil_ape I think intentionally depriving children of a mother or a father by placing them in homosexual households is the wrong thing to do.
by isay on Fri Sep 22, 06 6:49am
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I beg to differ, but single people adopt all the time.
Furthermore, the notion that it takes a Mom and a Dad to raise a child is so bogus. Look around you at all the unfortunate and oft-abused children in Mom/Dad situations.
Get past your fear and dislike of gay people.
Voted : Should be OK
Gays should be able to adopt, marry, have kids, etc. There are too many kids awaiting adoption or stuck in foster homes. Kids raised by gays or lesbians are no more likely than others to turn out gay or lesbian. Perhaps more open minded which isn't a bad thing.
isay, lil_ape, etc.: The choic eis not usually between putting the child with a traditional couple or a gay couple, it is between PUTTING them with a couple or not.
I think it is obviously better having ANY parents rather than having NO parents ... no matter what ones' ideal preferences might be.
Cathexis I wouldn’t want to put with any parents as you put it. It’s a child’s right to brought up naturally with a mother and father figure in they're lives, that's how they become whom they are, Homosexual or heterosexual. They're not a fashion accessories, ask any young child in any home what sort of parents they would like, I bet everyone will say a mummy and a daddy rather gay parents.
by isay on Fri Sep 22, 06 11:12am
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I think the standard for gay adoption should be precisely the standard for heterosexual adoption. There is no evidence whatsoever that gay parents are not as good as heterosexual parents.
Voted : Should be OK
I can't see a damn thing wrong with it.
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You CAN adopt as a single person.
Adopting children is one of the only things I believe gay couples shouldn't do just because you would have no opposite model to base your life on. It would be two moms or two dads and frankly I think you should have one of each. On the other hand, the situation may be better than anything else. I say go for it! cause now that I think about it.. they're orphans and you're helping them out.
Thanks everyone for your input, I'll keep you posted on what I decide to do.
Voted : Should be OK
While I think some kids would grow up resenting it, I think most would turn out just as normal as people raised in any loving environment. It's more about the people than the situation, but you do have to look at what the child might go through in terms of being made fun of or feeling like they might 'turn gay' themselves. But when you think of all the babies in the world that need a home, it seems almost silly to not give them to someone who will take care of them when that's all they need.
by Kiki on Fri Sep 22, 06 3:38pm
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Indifferent. Homosexual couples can be just as good/bad parents as anyone else.
But being adopted by anyone short of a rampant child abuser is probably better than being cared for by the state until you're 18.
I don't have a problem with it. I work with two gay men, they have had a long term relationship and they are trying to adopt. They would make wonderful loving parents.
My theory about what causes homosexuality is that it is almost exclusively-- though not completely --biological. It's possible that a minority of people are less predisposed towards homosexuality than others. (How much is bi-sexuality biological?)
It's possible that the environment could play a role in the development of some people's sexual orientation. Then the question becomes: What's wrong with that? I still contend that we're talking like 99%+ biological though, mainly because sexuality is such a basic, fundamental part of human nature.
I'm for it.
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