HOW WOULD YOU DEAL WITH BULLIES?

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private : HOW WOULD YOU DEAL WITH BULLIES?

[+] ballot by LCD
created Sun Dec 17, 06
you know, when you were in kindergarten, there was that one kid overloaded with hormones who always went around bullying everyone. And it's almost always the weakest kid in class that this bully would focus his most severe abuse on.

Thinking back, were you glad that you weren't that sickly little abused kid, and ignored it while this went on, month after month? Or did you stand up for that weakling, and risked getting the same abuse? Now that you have kids of your own, what do you tell your kids about bullies, and how to deal with them?

knowing what you know now, would you have done things differently?

Well, most of us have grown. Some of us haven't. There are adults here acting like those little playground bullies. I can't stand bullies.

How would you deal with bullies?

by the way, on a personal note, I have been running this site for over 4 years now. While I didn't agree with lot of the opinions expressed on this site, I have done my best to stand up for you.

Thank you to the several people who have emailed me with words of support, in my time of crisis. And those who have not, If you recall those times that I stood up for you, I would ask you to consider standing up for me.

let it go on, none of my business
ask if the person being bullied did something to egg on the bulliers before intervening
pity them, really
Bullies are cowards at heart...
.45 ACP ?
be a friend to the victim(s) and listen to his/her concerns.
I was the Bullied (not the Bully)

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Voted : ask if the person being bullied did something to egg on the bulliers before intervening
I'm not commenting on what's happened here, just answering the question of this ballot.

by nuckinfutz on Sun Dec 17, 06 2:48pm [+]

I was bullied in grammar school, found only thing to do was fight back, ignoring never worked, made me look weak which led to more bullying, some of the kids who did bully me back then grew out of it and are my friends now.

by larrynelmira on Sun Dec 17, 06 3:12pm [+]

Why won't comments post now?

When it comes to adult bullies, intimidation and bluff is what they rely on the most. It would sound very strange for IC to argue that he allowed his icons to be used free of charge for a long time but then wanted to retroactively change his mind, whatever some British lawyer type told him on a golf course. Given the fact that you had a car accident, had to pay for a lawyer, and lost a job before Christmas, I think IC wants you to be intimidated by the threat of an expensive lawsuit.

It sounds like you've had one helluva year. I sincerely hope next year is better. And don't let IC intimidate you.

by skylab on Sun Dec 17, 06 3:21pm [+]

I agree with Larry. I was bullied pretty badly in Grades 6-8. I finally beat my bully eith a trombone in the band room .It changed my whole life. I got suspended (this was before 0 tolerance) and it was totally worth it. In grade 11, I fucked that guy's girlfriend.BTW, IC's ajoke. No legal leg to hobble on... Cheers. El cid EE

by xxxxxxxx on Sun Dec 17, 06 3:29pm [+]

^comments does post now, if you have problems let me know.

by LCD on Sun Dec 17, 06 3:55pm [+]

As flagrant said, if you're a kid you need to kick the bullies ass. As an adult, the calm but firm aproach works better.

by skylab on Sun Dec 17, 06 4:03pm [+]

Voted : Bullies are cowards at heart...
As an adult, you have to deal with bullies differently than as a child of course. I was raise with 8 brothers, we didn't have any problems with bullies. However, we enjoy stepping in when someone did have a problem, it was truly fun...Seriously, ignoring a bully (providing he keeps his hands to himself) would be the best course of action. Although, ignoring them may cause some of them to really go bonkers and thats when you may have a problem on your hands. Most bullies are cowards at heart, surround yourself with others and you will quickly see them back off (if they believe that there are others who have your back, they usually back off). I have two sons, both pretty much can handle themselves (both are over 20 years old, and physically capable of handling themselves. However, they were taught to walk away watching their backs while doing so)

by Barbara_Baby_Cakes on Sun Dec 17, 06 4:32pm [+]

You of course have my support LCD, and I will make every effort to rid the slow of mind from gumming up B&W.

I did attempt to, only to find this ability was no longer available to maintainers.

There are some who believe that some maintainers abuse their position and if this is the case, I heartily support having this privilege withdrawn.

by Steelhamster on Sun Dec 17, 06 4:39pm [+]

^ right now, I am still sorting out the system, some stuff may not work.

check out the new bug report system, and report stuff, and I will work on them.

by LCD on Sun Dec 17, 06 4:44pm [+]

^Just love 'em. Haven't I seen that ;0) thing before?

by skylab on Sun Dec 17, 06 9:10pm [+]

Or is it ;o)?

by skylab on Sun Dec 17, 06 9:11pm [+]

Voted : I was the Bullied (not the Bully)
^ Does look rather familiar don't it? Hmmmm,

I either stand up and defend myself or try to ignore the ignoramous.

Either way it's pretty much a lose:lose situation.
Never understood really why people feel it necessary to harass and bully others.

I've seen studies though that report most bullies choose careers as Police Officers. How fitting. LOL
(No disrespect to law enforcement is intended).

by passiveson on Sun Dec 17, 06 10:47pm [+]

Voted : Bullies are cowards at heart...
I cant help but laugh at how out of control this guy is (I had to take the piss out of him a bit). But do not find it funny at all that you have to bear the brunt of it. Nasty!

This guy is so upset that he wants to hurt someone. But... of course he is the one losing all the respect and friendship, whilst you're respect gets greater and greater for dealing with it without losing control.

I hope he doesn't create too much work for you.

by Mr_Susan on Mon Dec 18, 06 5:50am [+]

Here's how I see the bullying situation - You didn't ask for it - you probably wont read it - But....

A bully nearly always was bullied previously by someone else. At school it was the kid who's big brother or dad used to bully them and make them feel small and pathetic, showing no sympathy (or mum or sister, not exclusively male). You can always feel sorry for a bully because they have been through shit that makes them hurt... and attack others as a form of release from their torture

But, the bully knows deep down that they are doing exactly what was done to them. They know how upset it made them and they begin to resent themselves for making someone else feel the same way.

The unlucky target of the bullies hate is always someone they think they can always win against, but will always be the most impressive target they can find.

It is an extreme bonus if the person they bully is in a position of respect, making their destruction of this person all the more triamphant... in their eyes, the bigger they came the harder they fall and the tougher the bully 'thinks' it makes em look.

The way to beat a bully is to make him realise that hurting this person is not seen as a big, strong act, but as a weakness in themselves.

It takes an alot for some people to understand that beating someone up menatlly or physically is a weakness of their own and not of the victims.

We all know the feeling of losing control. I for one regret it everytime. It is not a pleasant characteristic to have and it gives me a really negative view of myself. It damages your self respect, even if you pretend it doesn't.

When this is all over - you will have your self respect, and the respect of others. Which is much more than this other guy.

Sorry - just realised what aimless drivle I'm spouting -

THE END

by Mr_Susan on Mon Dec 18, 06 5:58am [+]

Welcome back, lock_and_load / IC.

by skylab on Mon Dec 18, 06 6:43am [+]

Oh, that's lock_n_load / IC ;o)

by skylab on Mon Dec 18, 06 6:44am [+]

Voted : Bullies are cowards at heart...
Take 'em out at the knees. They'll think twice before messing with you again.

by _Beelzebubba on Fri Dec 22, 06 10:04am [+]

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