COMMENTS:
honestly, back off a little, give your kids some freedom
by aya on Sun May 06, 07 4:10pm
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Stop beating your children?
Everything I hated about being a kid, in my parents house, I've made sure I've done the exact opposite!
The main one being I've never raised a hand to my children. We got battered, without mercy.
Don't get me wrong, they don't get away with anything bad, I raise my voice and they freeze. Mainly because I hardly scold them, it upsets them when I do.
I believe I'm doing OK cos I know my Kids love me.
I'll answer the question now, lol.
Some of the things I wish my parents did for me:
Showed us a belt should be just a thing for holding trousers up.
Spent more than five minutes a week with us, instead of dumping us with anyone who'd have us.
Took us on holiday with them (see above)
Bought us stuff
Locked the liquer cabinet and hid the porn, lol
Show they were bothered when the police brought us home etc etc
(Kudos to Nan, she did look after us, and I loved that woman more than you ever could any parent!)
To be a better parent? Can't answer that for you, to tell you how you could be a better parent I would have to know what you were like as a parent to start with.
All I can say, is Love your children with all your heart. Kiss them better when they're hurt, cuddle them when they're sad. Spend a lot of time with them and try to teach them right from wrong. Reward them when they're good, punish them when they're bad (Not with beatings!)
That's my Philisophy anyway.
I didn't mean to make it sound as if I'm a bad parent or anything. I guess I worded the ballot title wrong.
I'm the total opposite of how my parents were. I don't hit my kid, I don't ignore her, and we spend a lot of time just chit-chatting about anything and everything. I think I've done a pretty good job of raising my daughter by myself. She's always been an honor roll student and is just finishing her first year of college.
Voted : Pay attention to them and show you are interested in them as people
Just being nice, even if that sounds too trite right now.
^Sounds like you're doing ok, scissors.
Im not ashamed to admit I WILL give my kid a slap if they are completely out of control. Maybe society wouldnt be in the state it is if more parents did that.
One slap, under extreme circumstances, to shock not hurt.
Yep, sounds good to me too, Runs :o)
Voted : Pay attention to them and show you are interested in them as people
It seems we have more than a few good parents here. 
I make sure every day that my children do not have to go through the childhood I grew up with.
when you sell them, make sure to only give the buyer a limited warranty. this way the purchaser has to fix them and won't keep running back to you. that's good parenting in a nutshell. buy low -- sell high. voila!
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