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As an ex-kid, severe beatings did not help. I am fucked-up today, in part, because of them.
by mojo on Thu Jul 05, 07 2:03pm
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^ :( I'm sorry mojo :(
This is what i want to know...i was luckilly not usually spanked, but once in a while my mom would come after me with a big spoon and we'd get it, but only if we were really bad, and i don't blame her till this day. Then again she had 7 kids and we were lil terrors!
Voted : Kid: I don't get spanked and glad i don't!
I've never been spanked, but have a friend who parents believe in spare the rod and spoil the child philosophy .
I'm not sure it works, he was so anxious to get out of the house he dropped out of school got a job and moved away.
I suppose there is a difference between spanking and beating, but it might send the same message. IMO
^Although I'm an ex-kid too
My neice used to be spanked, and she was hitting people and the dogs all the time, sometimes with hard objects. After the spanking stopped, so did her violence.
^larry and nuckin, that's what it seems like to me, that if they are spanked which is a violent act, that they may hit or "spank"
I think it's important to to discipline and some kids probably do need a good spanking, but i definatly don't think it should be regular, like some kids get spanked regularly, to me that is extreme.
The spankings I received as a kid have made it difficult to let people touch me, physically or emotionally.
^ :(
Some poeple get evil when it comes to their "spanking" when i was little and lived with my grandparents a lot, a spanking was barely a swat on the butt and that was that...my mom went spycho on us though sometimes, but not often.
well I never got spanked, I got full beatings.
it has affected my life more than I care to admit, and it took 20 years to get myself to fully recuperate from it.
don't hit your kids, it's not cool.
by LCD on Fri Jul 06, 07 5:53pm
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^ Agree LCD
WOW so mnay kids get beaten, and they fucking wonder why people grow up mean! It's like beating a dog, i mean it's common sense people. Hit your kids and they will become vicious.
By hit i mean abuse, not discipline, big difference i think...
Voted : Adults: I was spanked, and it never worked.
It does not work. I was spanked as a kid, and it DID NOT teach me not to misbeheave. At most it taught me to cover my tracks after misbehaving so as to avoid a spanking. In other words, I learned to lie, cheat, and steal, up until I was about 17, and nearly went to jail because of it. So no, I do not believe spanking works, and I think people who spank their kids, while mostly meaning well, are merely asking for problems, mistrust, and other issues.
Voted : Adults: I spank my kids
spend time with your kids, be forgiving too.
Same here frig...it did not work
It's okay for big people to hit little people but not okay for little people to hit big people
Voted : Adults: I was spanked, and it never worked.
Doesn't work. About the most spanking does is encourage kids to lie, cheat, and cover their tracks better so as to avoid the spanking.
oops looks like I already commented on this one...
But there is also more to the non-spanking approach than just talking. The problem is that many pro-spankers would have you believe that the only way to not spank is to do nothing. That is just ridiculous. That would be like someone saying that the only way to not eat meat is never to eat anything. (I am not vegetarian - not even close - but same argument really).
I am one of those hard-core anti-spanking folks who does not believe in spanking no matter what. No matter how badly a kid is misbehaving, spanking him (or her) is only going to make things worse. And, yes, spanking is hitting (it is a form of slapping which is a form of striking which is a form of hitting), whether you believe it is or not. Don't be ignorant.
I was occasionally spanked when I misbehaved. It was never a very hard or painful spanking. Overall, I don't think it worked. At some point people will figure out that the only reason they follow certain rules is because they were conditioned to by punishment, and you can change your own conditioning.
As a child I was brutally beaten. Preteen and early teenage years I found an xxx rated film in our trash that mom threw away. I put two and two together and as a midteen age child I attacked my step father for beating my brother with a closed fist. Now as an adult I want to be spanked like that again. I have broken two bones and they had two breaks in them at the same time. I enjoyed the pain and for me there was none. I would say that I am pretty messed up from the beatings I got as a child.
Didn't work. It made me afraid of my parents as a kid. And I didn't even get into trouble often.
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