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It's a different feeling , but I don't know how to put into words.
Voted : They are different and I will tell you how
Gotta go with Larry on this one. You can definitely tell, but I don't know exactly how without getting sappy, which I don't feel like doing. There's definitely a difference though.
Sorry, I guess my vote choice was kinda false advertisement.
Voted : They are different and I will tell you how
You can love a dog, but that doesn't mean you're in love with the dog, hopefully.
Voted : They are different and I will tell you how
IMO, loving is a constantly warm, fuzzy sensation. Being in love can be warm and fuzzy, or cold and rippingly painful.
^ Regarding the latter, sometimes at the same time. And you'll find it to be the greatest state to exist in.
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A relationship takes work, give and take, and compromises. Most relationships start out based on sex. Which is not a bad place to start with. I mean, you’re not going to start a relationship if you’re having bad sex with that someone! I know, to some of you out there you may say to yourself; Hey bad sex is better than no sex at all. Well, Not Really.
OK--- now to everybody--- here it is on relationships according to your UncleRandy...
I think I told this story before in another ballot. But here it is again.
So many people get married in this country before they are ready for it. They just don’t know that they are not ready for it. They need to learn what the difference between love and lust first.
Lets start out with being young I mean teenage years. You’re dating someone and every time you’re with that person things happen inside your body. Lets put it this way it gets your juices flowing. You can’t wait to be with that person and nothing else matters. Lets say that both of you feel the same way about each other. You even used those three little words, I Love You, your mind and body are learning the beginning of love and lust. After all you already know the love of family and how you love them. It’s been etched into you from the day you were born. But now this is different. This is WOW. So you and your partner have sex for the fist time. It probably was clumsy and a little awkward. It most likely was over before it even got started. For her, she’s telling herself, this is it, this is what they write all this poetry about. For him, he got his rocks off and he now thinks of himself as a big stud. And they both say to themselves this is it, this must be love. Because I love him/her. Say now you’re out of school and starting your carrier. You’re dating, and this time when you have sex, this partner bring out the best in you and you bring out the best in her. Lets just say the Rockets Red Glared and the Bombs Bursting In Air type sex. And now you say to yourself WOW! This is it. This must be love. So many people end up getting married and have children based on these feelings. But this is not love. This is lust. I am not saying that this cannot turn into love, you really have to work at it to turn it into love. But for those who got married and didn’t work at it. Turning that lust into love usually ends up divorce court. And it’s a shame, especially if they have children. But, for so many of us, this is the real world. And the fact is that they should have never gotten married in the first place. I have a simple way of telling yourself if you may be ready to get married. Especially for the guys. And here it is. If you’re with someone and believe that you are in love with her and that she is the one. Take this little test with yourself and see. You’re engaged to be married. Now say you are salesman on a out-of-town trip, just for argument sakes. You are in the hotel bar after work and a women comes on to you. A little flirting, a little chitchat never hurt anyone right? She now offers a sexual favor and you know that there is no way anybody will find out about it. Do you take this advance from her? If you take it, you failed and you are not ready for marriage. If you think about it and stew over it, but decline because you’re just a little apprehensive. You may not have completely failed, but you may not be ready for marriage. If you can honestly tell yourself no thank you and refuse, you might be ready for marriage.
When you find that someone, and your in love, work at it. Remember you have to turn that lust into love and it takes years. The sex life in a relationship also changes over the years. It started out really passionate, but over time it changes. It takes work to sustain a healthy sex life. And if you don’t work at it, it will fade, and that’s when the lust in love loses its luster. And you may end up headed for divorce.
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