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Ugh. I hate haughty, in-your-face religious wackos. I can understand your frustration but, Larry, if it's a family problem, I can't tell you what to do.
Voted : tell her to stay out of your life
Point-blank, IMO. I have family members who also think that I'm not living my life the way I should, by steadfastly refusing to adhere to religion, and that I need to "get right", considering my health. (I'm fine now, but one serious illness could put me in a bad way, if I'm not careful.)
Forgive me for digressing. Basically, look at her and say "It's my life. When I fail, feel free to come over and lecture me at length. Until then, HUSH."
Voted : tell her to stay out of your life
She doesn't baulk at using things that hurt you to make her point Larry. You should tell her she's a mean spirited nazi that jesus would be ashamed of. I would :-)
A religious person should spread the word of God to those who are willing to listen. Many of these people take it upon themselves to start judging others and they may not realize they are doing so. If you are offended by the way they come across, then try saying something to this person about it.
Being rude to another person because of their beliefs isn't really necessary, is it?
There's one quote from the Bible that I like to use on people like that, and it's something to the effect of "Pull the board out of your own eye before you try to pull the splinter out of mine."
^I did vote, but didn't add a comment to it.
^bringing his family into it means she realises exactly what she's saying in my book.
I recognise a control situation when I see one. Past experience. Past experience also tells me that those who control by manipulation are usually the first to break their own rules. They redeem themselves by blaming others and making themselves equal whatever the cost to another.
Be rude. In my opinion it's not only necessary it's fundamental to ridding yourself of hurtful people.
What price peace of mind?
Voted : Do this
It sounds like a good idea to stay away from this person. I hope you don't live with her. If so, maybe move.
^That depends on if the person is intentionally being hurtful.
I do agree with you though that some people think that they redeem themselves by blaming others.
No I don't live with her
It’s one thing if she is worried about me, we could discuss that, not that I would necessarily do as she says but I would understand that she is saying out of concern, but by her pushing the button that she knows would hurt me the most is going way too far, in fact there would not be an insult I could think of that would be worse than what she said to me.
Also, I'm not robbing banks or killing people, she doesn’t like how I'm living my personal life
Voted : tell her to stay out of your life
some people don't just step over the line, they bulldoze over it with a tact of a rampaging elephant in heat.
Look her straight in her eyes, and tell her if she brings your parents into it, she will never ever be welcome in your life again.
tell her everybody on this site heard about her and thinks what a terrible, horrid person she is :)
and tell her that I called her a rampaging elephant in heat :)
by LCD on Thu May 28, 09 11:23am
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If there is a polite way to tell her to butt out, I think you need to do it. To bring your parents into it is unconscionable. I realize she's family, but you're an adult, and you need to let her know there's a limit to what you can tolerate. What she's doing is cruel, IMO.
I just read LCD's comment, "Look her straight in her eyes, and tell her if she brings your parents into it, she will never ever be welcome in your life again.' Exactly -- very good advice.
by mojo on Thu May 28, 09 11:39am
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I have a family member just like this. While I was in Iraq she sent me this scathing 'ready-made' religious pamphlet on why I was basically 'going to hell' because of the religion I believe in. I was so angry that I swore I would never talk to her again.
I was able to get past it by realizing that, even though she is judgemental and foolish in her words, she still does love me. She is my great aunt, my grandfather's sister.
I thank her for the subscription to Guidepost, but I don't tell her that i throw them away when they come in the mail.
Voted : tell her it's a sin to be judgemental
...and tell her MENTAL is the key word in Judgemental! lol
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