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I believe in the statement "spoil now, pay later"
When it comes to parenting, you can clearly tell who was and who wasn't spoiled as a child.
I babysat all through my teenage years. I saw how children acted with their parents, and how they acted around me. Once the parents (who gave their kids everything they wanted) left, I was stuck with a bratty kid. The whole night, the kids would try to boss me around. They even asked me to put on their socks for them at age 10, because "my mom does it for me." When I said "No you can do it yourself" the girl started screaming and crying, and immediately called her mom.
Note to parents: Give your child love, but don't let your child control you.
"Research shows that an overindulged child can grow up to be a self absorbed, unmotivated and depressed teenager. When parents give to a child all the time, the youngster learns that every wish will be gratified. The child never learns how to tolerate frustration, or how to do or get things on his or her own"
YES........ just look at my little sister. My dad got custody of us when she was born. And shes a total BRAT.
I was a spoiled child. The answer is yes. I'm kind of fucked in the head.
Its hard to say, its a fine line between spoiled and not giving enough attention, all of my children were spoiled, but not with money, they all have respect for others and do well in school, as they got older they seem to automatically take on more responsibility by themselves, even though my wife did everything for them. Every child that comes to my house shows respect because they know I wont put up with any BS, even though they act like brats around their parents. I have found that you never know how kids will turn out.
by ABC on Tue Jul 06, 04 11:28am
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Actual spoiling ... yes. They tend to grow up egocentric and lacking empathy.
Now, this *is* a spectrum ... not an "either/or" thing. Not spoiling doesn't mean granting license to wail on them with snowtire chains, either.
Great point. When you don't set boundaries early on, it's not kind to them in the long run. As an adult, if you smart-mouth your boss and expect your peers to treat you like royalty, you'll be jobless and friendless.
by mojo on Tue Jul 06, 04 11:38am
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So, what are you all saying. I AM NOT NORMAL PERSON?
Oh, I forgot. I said that.
lol
I remember on one Christmas, I was with my bratty 12 year old cousin. After getting a computer, a CD player, and numerous toys, he still said "Are there any more for me?" and when we said NO, he started crying. At 12 years old. Geez.
I was spoiled and although I have empathy for others, I have struggled with my laz.. er lack of motivation. I've almost completely overcome this but it was difficult.
look at George W. Bush
Absolutely. It only makes sense that a child raised in that manner would grow up with a sense of entitlement.
In fact, what about rich and famous adults? They can have anything they want, and are showered with attention all the time. A lot of those people just go nuts with their King Kong-sized ego.
Notice hoe this country is full if Kids & young adults just how you discribed?
OH HELL YES
When I was a child, my parents spoiled me by doing everything for me. They didn't buy me lots of toys or give me pocket money because I apparently didn't care for toys. I am most certainly self-centered and demanding, but around people other than my parents I usually don't bother to be controlling or rude. In fact, I used to be overly passive and obedient when around other people. I am essentially jobless and friendless, and that's the way I like it.
I think parents should be required to spoil their children as compensation for being born. People who expect to raise disciplined, productive wage slaves like themselves really should not have children.
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